Welcome to this section of Focus On Freedom. I am honored that you would come and consider my reasoning from a Biblical perspective. The Bible, Gods’ Word has all of the answers for life and happiness. Finding the right woman for your future is something that will make you happy for a long time. Rest assured that God desires happiness for us all. When we apply his principles to our lives we can experience his rich blessings. Young people all across America are finding that right decisions are very important. Why ruin your future or at least a major part of it just because you didn’t think when you should have. Well, I am here to help you think and reason about your decision to find the right woman in your life. If you’re interested check out the study titled “Finding The Right Boyfriend.” Let’s get started!
Who is Not the Right Girl?
From the beginning God made man and woman for each other. So, it is safe to say that God sanctions man/woman relationships as long as they are in the right setting.
“So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” Genesis 1:27
The woman was not made to be a door mat, slave or an object of sexual pleasure, she was made by God to complete or help the man in his weak areas. Yet, he didn’t just make a man and a woman, he made the right man and the right woman for each other. Every woman is not right for you. You are not right for every woman. In order to get some direction here we need to look at the woman who is not right for you and maybe that will help us to see this a little more clearly.
“It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” Proverbs 21:19
“For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:  But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword.  Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.  Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.” Proverbs 5:3-6
The Bible is full of practical common sense statements just like this. When we look at it and understand the full ramifications, we see that the wrong woman can make life pretty miserable. I have seen young people who didn’t think about this and now are paying child support and are connected to someone for a long time that they can’t get along with. Does that sound like your idea of a good time? Think about that when she approaches you for sex or makes other sexual advances toward you. There is something more valuable than sex. Character is more important than a good time. Quality is the thing that will bless you for the long-term. Some negative qualities that should send up a red flag is anger, arguing, has to have her way or she blows up, loose and promiscuous, sexually oriented, lies, changes her ways often, unstable, not faithful to her parents, puts her parents down (especially her dad), is rebellious and should I continue on? Do any of these ring a bell in your head? If they do you should run from her and spend some time considering a more positive direction for your future.
Question #1 What kind of woman do you think will bless your life?
Who Is The Right Girl?
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10
What are you looking for? Are you looking for cheap things in life which usually come quickly, or do you want valuable things that usually take some time? Young people all over the country are discovering that value is something to be desired and sought after. Value lasts a long time. Things of no value or little value cause constant problems. There are some qualities to look for in a good woman. Honesty and humility will make a good start. Solomon describes a woman of great quality and value.
She is easy to trust.
“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” Proverbs 31:11
She does good and not evil.
“She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:12
She truly cares about others, not just what she wants.
“She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.” Proverbs 31:20
She is deeply committed to those she loves. Not fake or plastic.
“She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” Proverbs 31:27
She has character qualities that are awesome.
“Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” Proverbs 31:25
Others speak of her goodness and qualities.
“Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.” Proverbs 31:28
Does this sound like a queen from another world? Is there such a woman on the face of the earth? The good news is yes!
Question #2 Would you like to have a wife like this? Are you willing to wait on God for her?
Where Can This Woman Be Found?
The story of Joseph in the Bible has the answer to this question. He was a young man who worked for someone named Potiphar. Potiphar was a servant to the Pharaoh in Egypt. Joseph was good looking and wise, in fact he was Potiphar’s bookkeeper and financial advisor. Joseph was a man who followed and trusted in God and that also included the right woman for him. Let me say here that Joseph was tempted to go the wrong way (just as you will) in his pursuit of doing things right. Time passed and his masters wife began to look at him for her personal reasons. Read.
“And it came to pass after these things, that his master’s wife cast her eyes upon Joseph; and she said, Lie with me.” (have sex with me) Genesis 39:7
Sound exciting? It didn’t for Joseph. He was terrified of the consequences of such a thing. He was a forward looking man, not someone interested only in a cheap thrill.
“But he refused, and said unto his master’s wife, Behold, my master wotteth not what is with me in the house, and he hath committed all that he hath to my hand;  There is none greater in this house than I; neither hath he kept back any thing from me but thee, because thou art his wife: how then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” Genesis 39:8-9
Some women don’t know how to handle the word NO and this one was no exception.
“And it came to pass, as she spake to Joseph day by day, that he hearkened not unto her, to lie by her, or to be with her.” Genesis 39:10
Joseph was a strong man because of his understanding of the situation. He knew instinctively that she could not be trusted. Sure enough, the real person came out when she saw that she would not get her way.
“And it came to pass about this time, that Joseph went into the house to do his business; and there was none of the men of the house there within.  And she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled, and got him out.  And it came to pass, when she saw that he had left his garment in her hand, and was fled forth,  That she called unto the men of her house, and spake unto them, saying, See, he hath brought in an Hebrew unto us to mock us; he came in unto me to lie with me, and I cried with a loud voice:” Genesis 39:11-14
She accused him of rape. Ever hear of something like this today? After the party is over it may be time to pay. Joseph was thrown into prison for this but God was with him.
“But the Lord was with Joseph, and shewed him mercy, and gave him favour in the sight of the keeper of the prison.” Genesis 39:21
Eventually Joseph was released form prison and became second in command to the Pharaoh. He never revenged himself, he simply trusted in God for the right woman and eventually she came along.
“And unto Joseph were born two sons before the years of famine came, which Asenath the daughter of Poti-pherah priest of On bare unto him.  And Joseph called the name of the firstborn Manasseh: For God, said he, hath made me forget all my toil, and all my father’s house.” Genesis 41:50-51.
These children actually became tribes in the nation of Israel. So the answer to the question, “Where can this woman be found?” is, she can be found in the will of God!
Question #3 Do you believe that God has the right woman for you?
“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6
God has the right woman for you. However, you must look for the right qualities and character attributes in the person you choose to go with. If you will place value on doing what is right, God will get involved and bless you for the rest of your life.
Thanks for taking the time to consider this study with me. It is my prayer that your life will be blessed greatly and that you will have good direction for your future. If you would like to be contacted for help let me know and we will get in contact with you as soon as possible. Any questions? Leave them here and I will respond as sson as possible. If this site has been a blessing to you tell a friend and thanks again. I hope to see you soon at Focus on Freedom!
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