Welcome to this section of Focus On Freedom.  If you are a young girl looking for a boyfriend or interested in developing a relationship with someone of the opposite sex you might be surprised to find that the Bible has the answer as to who would be the right one.  Today it seems that many young people make this very important decision without regard to anything but how they feel.  If you are going from relationship to relationship, finding that you are being done wrong over and over I hope this lesson will help you get out of the cycle of this very destructive way of living. You may also be interested in the study Titled “Finding the Right Girlfriend.”  Having said that, let’s get started!


The Right Man For Me


The Bible, Gods’ Word, tells us that God is very interested in who we are connected with, in fact, it tells us that from the beginning he has made the right person just for you! 


“And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Genesis 2:23


God knows that we all need to have love.  He understands the way we feel for he made us the way we are.  So, in his love and understanding he made a man and a woman just for each other!  This is brought out in a Bible love story that is inspiring, one that I believe will help. Please understand that you are not alone in your situation and God doesn’t want you to be alone for the rest of your life, but he has prepared the right person for you that will help you and complete you.  The story is about a young girl named Ruth.  It is found in the book of Ruth.


“And they took them wives of the women of Moab; the name of the one was Orpah, and the name of the other Ruth: and they dwelled there about ten years.” Ruth 1:4


Ruth is first mentioned as a girl who got into a marriage relationship with a young Jewish man.  At first she must have been excited but as time went on things began to break down until sickness and disease caused her husband to die.  How many times have you seen a friend get hooked up with a boy only to find that after he got what he wanted, he was gone?  You must have seen heartache, tears and depression.  I hope this has never happened to you but if it has, then you know what I am talking about. 


Ruth followed her mother-in-law back to the land of Israel and began working as a  gleaner in the fields.  By gleaning, I mean she went around the edges of the field and gathered the leftovers.  She did this because of her husbands death and her now being alone she found herself in poverty, doing something she probably wasn’t too excited about.  Did you now that statistics prove that a girl who gets pregnant at a young age will probably be poor the rest of her life?  You see, it is important who you go with and who you hook up with.  The right man can bless you or he can hurt you emotionally, physically or financially.


“And Ruth the Moabitess said unto Naomi, Let me now go to the field, and glean ears of corn after him in whose sight I shall find grace. And she said unto her, Go, my daughter. [3] And she went, and came, and gleaned in the field after the reapers: and her hap was to light on a part of the field belonging unto Boaz, who was of the kindred of Elimelech.” Ruth 2:2-3


Her hap means that she happened to get into a certain field.  Yet, behind the scenes God was putting things together for her.  It just so happened that a certain single man named Boaz (I know it sounds funny) was the owner of the field.  When he saw her he knew that she was the one that he had been praying for.  As time went on they were married and became very famous people in the genealogies of Jesus Christ.


“So Boaz took Ruth, and she was his wife…” Ruth 4:13


I must go back a ways to show you why God was involved in her life like this.  It was something that she did when every thing seemed to be going wrong for her.  She committed her life into the hand of God and trusted him for her future.  Believe me, you can trust God for your future.  He is very interested in making you happy and fulfilled. 


“And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee, or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God…” Ruth 1:16


Ruth turned her life over to God and he (God) found the right man for her.  When God picks the right man for you he will have qualities that will be a blessing to you.  He will not be destructive, demanding or demeaning.  God has the RIGHT man for you not just a man.  God picks men that have certain qualities that will make a woman feel like she is valuable. 


Question #1  Do you believe that God has the right man for you?


What Not To Pick


Let’s list a few things that should send up a red flag that this may not be the right guy for you.  He lies to you.  Has cheated on you.  Can’t hold a job.  Spends all of his money foolishly.  Puts you down in public and in private.  He only wants sex from you.  Has introduced you to drugs and or alcohol.  He puts demands on you.  He has threatened you to hurt himself or you if you leave him.  Doesn’t get along with his parents.  Puts his parents down, especially his mother.  Doesn’t honor or respect you.  Is this enough?  If any one of these apply to your guy the best thing you can do is rethink your relationship and back off.  Relationships were meant to help not to hurt those involved. 


Question #2  Have you ever or you now being treated wrongly by a man in your life?


What To Look For


When God puts his approval on a man he will honor you in public and in private.  He will respect you and your body.  He will not make demands from you.  He will never think of threatening you.  He will tell you the truth.  He will not approach you for sex.  He will not be interested in drugs or alcohol.  He will not cheat on you and go with someone else behind your back.  Does that sound unrealistic?  Is there such a man out there like this?  The answer is yes!


Question #3  Would you really like to find a man like this for a companion?


What Can I Do?


“Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6


WOW!  What a word form God!  All I have to do is trust in the Lord with all of my heart and he will direct me in the right way to go.  There is another way to avoid mistakes that God has given us.  Godly councilors. 


“Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.” Proverbs 11:14


If you want to be successful, seek for a Godly adult to help you see the right way.  Often times we get emotionally involved and our vision is blurred.  We can’t see what is right before us sometimes because of our emotions.  God wants you to have the right man.  It is his good pleasure.


“Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom.” Luke 12:32


The key to getting the right man is waiting.  Waiting on God.


“But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.” Isaiah 40:31 (KJV) 


You can be an Eagle or a Crow.  Eagles wait for the right time and Crows will go for anything that looks good.


Question #4  Are you willing to wait for the right man ?   




In conclusion, it is my prayer that you find the right man for your future.  Waiting seems to take a long time, but the results are worth the wait.  Don’t become impatient and make a mistake, trust God and he will bring it to pass.


Thanks for coming to this lesson.  I hope it has given you positive direction.  There is someone in your area that cares.  With the right council and loving people around you, God can and will give you the right man and bless your life greatly.


If this lesson has helped you I would love to know.  If it has tell a friend!  If you would like to be contacted, just simply leave your information and someone will get in touch as soon as possible.   Thanks for stopping by and hope to see you soon.




Greg Wirths


Focus on Freedom


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  1. Sonia says:

    The information presented is top notch. Ive been doing some research on the topic and this post answered several questions.Regards, Sonia

  2. Tiffany says:

    This has really helped me thank you.

  3. Clare says:

    This section is very inspiring, brief and yet speaks of the whole thing u need to know in finding the perfect partner.Thank you and more power!

  4. amanda says:

    Wow. I was just about to give up. This was a sign from god.

  5. Meg says:

    Just what I needed thank you so much

  6. Listen... says:

    I want to renew my faith. For the past few months I haven’t been reading the bible and praying and just thanking God for everything he has done for me. Not because I deserve it, but just because he loves me like no other person has or can love me. I started trying to find connections and satisfaction through ungodly things and now, from reading this, I have recommitted to doing everything I possibly can for him as he has done everything for me.

    Although, I’m feeling lonely and would want a significant other to make me feel loved, I realize that I don’t need that to feel loved, because even if no one I know truly loves me, God loves me and will always. Plus, he was probably feeling sad for my dilemma that was the direct root of my not trusting him and sometimes forgetting him and his power. He knew I didn’t need to feel this way, its just that I didn’t know or truly in my heart prayed for guidance. But today, I recommit to patience and my trust in him to provide for me in all ways.

    Thank you.

  7. Brittney says:

    This is so inspiring. There’s so much pressure just to get a boyfriend that people don’t even care about the type of guy you have as a boyfriend. I’m a single christian and it can be so hard waiting and sometimes I doubt God, but reading this has encouraged me to keep waiting on God because he will lead me to my future spouse.

    Thanks for the article!

    • gregwirths says:

      Amen Brittney,
      Keep your heart tender before God and set your sights high. God will lead you in the right way if you trust him completely. I have found that he will never let me down. Never. I am celebrating 35 years of marriage (to the same wife). It just doesn’t get any better than that!!

  8. Ruth says:

    Thank you Greg. Every time I want to give up. God send me a word to wait. He just used you. Thank you for being His vessel. May God bless you richly as He has blessed me through you.

  9. gwyn says:

    i wz about to give up thx for the msg, i have waited for to long for the right man

  10. Amanda Flowers says:

    Thank you so much. I have been waiting on God for what seems like a life time. I am 20 years old and feel I am ready to settle down and begin a family. It gets hard sometimes to stay patient and just wait; especially when I see my sister so happy with her husband and children. So thank you again for the encouragement and please keep me in your prayers; even though you do not know me.


  11. vanessa says:

    Thanks alot… i feel much better, i will wait on the Lord for the write man,pray for me

  12. Vusani says:

    Thank you verrry much..what a word, short but very helpful..

  13. lilliana says:

    thank you for the kind words of wisdom… I have bin doubtn all my lyf… And now… U med everything clear

  14. Brittany Beech says:

    Reading this has helped me some its hard waiting for the right guy but I know God has the right person for me.

  15. Katie Martin says:

    This is a good lesson

  16. Diamond says:

    I questioned myself and God wondering what I did wrong to end up alone and I was re approached by the enemy to give in to a negative relationship but this words help to encourage me to wait on the lord and if it is right I will have a knowing and not be in confusion trying to please the boy and lower myself for love. Thanks after this message I finally heard my soul and not my flesh.

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