DEALING WITH SORROW

 

 

Thank you for taking the time to go through this lesson on sorrow.  If you are in the throws of sorrow for whatever reason I trust it will be a blessing to you.  As you must know, life is not always fair and when we are hurting because of it the question arises, “Why?”  In addition, as we age, the reality that some things are out of our control becomes more acute.  At times it can leave us feeling empty, hopeless and lonely. 

 

Webster defines sorrow as sadness or grief.  Usually it comes as a result of loosing something or someone dear to us.  It could be the loss of a home, business, loved one or family member.  When we loose things that are precious to us we often feel a sense of loneliness and emptiness that we know cannot ever be totally restored to us.  This can lead to anger and even depression if not approached properly.  It is my prayer that you will receive comfort and hope through this simple lesson.  I would also like to recommend the study “Dealing With Fear.”  In this lesson a man named Gideon overcame his fear.  If you are dealing with fear this would be good lesson to get you started on the road to freedom!

 

The Reality of Being Human

 

One of the realities of being human (and there are many) is our inability to avoid hardships.  This generation does its’ best to avoid hardships but they come nevertheless.  We can try to shield ourselves with possessions, wealth, positions or friends but give it time and troubles will come.  Job who was acquainted with troubles spoke a truth about life when he said:

 

“Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble.” Job 14:1 (KJV) 

 

He of course was in the middle of it and when it happened to him it was devastating.  Job had a corner on trouble because when he made this statement, he had lost all of his possessions and family in one single day.  No wonder he felt this way.  Even though Job was very wealthy, the richest man of his day, the reality of being human caught up with him and it was truly painful.  Sorrow filled his heart and mind as he remembered the good times he had had with his children only to realize he would see them no more.  In times like these sorrow can break you.

 

“…but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken.” Proverbs 15:13 (KJV) 

 

We really don’t know how vulnerable we are until something is gone that we loved deeply.  I can say that my experiences as a young man have taught me these hard lessons.  At the age of 16 years my father passed away as a result of a heart condition.  The pain and despair was extremely difficult to go through.  To add to this, one year later my mother passed away as a result of cancer.  I know what it is like to weep until the tears dry up.  At a young age I found out what it is like to be human.  If you are dealing with deep sorrow right now, maybe it will help a little to know that someone else understands.

 

Question #1  Are you or someone you know going through a time of sorrow right now?

 

Is There Anyone Who Really Understands?

 

There are often many well-wishers who use the phrase, or variation of it, “I know how you feel.”  Maybe they do and maybe they don’t.  I understand it is a legitimate attempt to comfort and help but most of the time it falls short.  Those who are “looking on” feel helpless to say or do the right thing.  The reason we feel helpless is because we are helpless.  In truth there is no one that can truly say, I understand.  Well, almost no one.  There is someone who does understand sorrow and pain like no one.  Yes, his name is Jesus Christ.

 

“He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” Isaiah 53:3 (KJV) 

 

Doesn’t it seem odd that if we were God, we would shield ourselves from pain and sorrow, when as God he acquainted himself with it?  Acquaint, according to Webster is defined as to make known or familiar. The God of heaven in all of his power and might, actually got to know what it is like to suffer.  He suffered not only the cross but personal rejection by those who loved him and were the closest to him.  To us this may seem odd but to God it was the right thing to do.  The reason is simple, well at least right here it is, he could not be a close friend to each of us if he didn’t understand by the same experiences we go through, how we really feel.  In other words he came to this earth and robed himself in flesh so he could be on our level.

 

“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.” Hebrews 4:15 (KJV) 

 

Not only did he go through everything we could go through, he felt what we feel.  None of us would survive if we had to go through what every person has to go through, yet Jesus did!  In his divine position he was man and God at the same time.  He could have delivered himself and shielded himself from troubles but he chose not to for your and my sakes.  With this in mind we truly can find someone who totally understands what we are going through.  Not only does he understand, he is here to help.  The help that Jesus Christ brings is peace and comfort into a situation of sorrow.

 

“These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 (KJV) 

 

In fact he is called the Prince of Peace.  Meaning, he can give peace to your heart that no one else can.  When friends or family are unavailable, Jesus will be right there for you.

 

“… and his name shall be called Wonderful, Counsellor, The mighty God, The everlasting Father, The Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6 (KJV) 

 

Question #2  Do you have someone in your life that you can talk to about your situation?  If not, why not try Jesus?

 

Why Do I Feel Broken?

 

Broken people occupy a special place.  It is a place where God is very close.  You see, when everything is going well, we often don’t think about God or the need to call on him for help.  On the other hand, when we are broken by extreme circumstances we reach out for help.

 

“The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.” Psalm 51:17 (KJV) 

 

“…but to this man will I look, even to him that is poor and of a contrite (smitten; dejected) spirit, and trembleth at my word.” Isaiah 66:2 (KJV) 

 

God said here that he is actually drawn to people who are in sorrow and broken by life’s tragedies.  This is because he understands.  Remember, he acquainted himself with grief?  This is so he could empathize and feel the pain that you are going through.

 

When we feel broken and hopeless we are in effect drawing close to the one who is acquainted with these feelings.  When he draws near there is comfort and peace.  Our sense of need brings us closer to his presence and in turn provides the support that we desperately long for.  Feeling broken is the spirit that makes us search for answers.  The answer of course is Jesus Christ!

 

Question #3  Have you gone to Jesus with your feelings?  If not, right now would be a great time.

 

Conclusion

 

Sorrow is a part of living.  Life has a way of leaving us empty and alone at times.  The Lord designed it this way so we could understand that we are only here for a short season of time.  Now is the time to seek him and when we seek him we have the assurance that he will be close by.

 

“That they should seek the Lord, if haply they might feel after him, and find him, though he be not far from every one of us:” Acts 17:27 (KJV) 

 

When we seek him he brings peace to our troubled situation.  Thank God we are not alone!  There are people in your area who care about you and are waiting to pray with and help you.  If you care to contact someone in your area to pray with, please feel free to let us know and we will give you a way to contact them.  Thank you for taking the time to visit this site.  I pray it has helped you.  Please let me know what you thought of the lesson, it will be greatly appreciated.  Hope to see you soon!

 

Sincerely,

 

Greg Wirths

 

Focus on Freedom

 

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4 Responses to DEALING WITH SORROW

  1. Propecia says:

    Just wanted to comment and say that I really like your blog layout and the way you write too. It’s very refreshing to see a blogger like you.. keep it up

  2. RENA SIMMS says:

    I FEEL I HAVE LOST MY DAUGHTER TO GOD.MAYBE THAT IS GOOD IN A WAY BUT SHE WONT EVEN TALK TO ME.PEOPLE SAY THAT SHE IS A TEEN AND THAT’S PART OF THE REASON SHE DOES’NT ACT THE SAME.ALL I KNOW IS THAT IT HURTS A LOT AND I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO.PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND.

    • gregwirths says:

      Rena,
      Some things hurt, we can only pray and wait on God in some cases. Will be praying for you.
      Greg

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