“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.”  1 John 4:7 (KJV)


“A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.”  John 13:34 (KJV)


Someone once said that Love is what makes the world go round’.  Sounds good but less than true.  While it may not make the world go in its’ path it certainly is the stuff of relationships.  Without true love any relationship will eventually starve and die out.  This of course is not the preferred outcome.  So how can we have relationships that flourish and grow?  The answer of course comes to us from the Word of God.  The key to understanding love, true love is to understand a bit about the nature of God.


“…for God is love.” 1 John 4:8 (KJV)


The word love here is defined as affection.  Websters defines love “to feel devotedly attached to or affectionate toward.”  To understand love a little better we need to look at its’ opposite.


“For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world.” 1 John 2:16 (KJV)


Lust here is defined as a longing, especially for that which is forbidden.  Why is lust the opposite of love?  The basic answer is that love gives and lust takes.  Love gives because of its’ very nature of affection and lust takes because of its’ selfish nature of longing or wanting.  OK, you may say where is this going?  The point here is that if love is the God given way for blessed relationships and love selflessly gives then without it we cannot have the great relationships we desire.  On the other hand with true love we can experience long-lasting quality relationships.  The key to great relationships is that love must be communicated.  What you communicate in your relationships is what your relationship will become


What is the difference between love and lust in your own words?


The Only Thing God Has Chosen to Work With is Words and  Expressions


“And God said, Let there be light: and there was light.” Genesis 1:3 (KJV) 


Words are a form of communication.  They certainly are not the only way to engage someone but they are the most effective way.  In fact, God in his wisdom knew that through his words he could create the world and everything in it.  If we can use the same wisdom that God uses, then we too can have good results.  Please note here I am not saying that we can create anything.  The Lord is the only creator.  We can however make or break our relationships by the words that we say or don’t say.  Communication then becomes the foundation of relationships.  


Let me ask you a question.  What is your idea of a great relationship?  Is it getting what you want or is it blessing the other person?  The answer will make all the difference in the world.  Communication is more than just words it is words and expressions of love.  It is going beyond mere talk to the point of feeling what the other person is saying.  In other words, good communication is the ability to get into the other persons world and selflessly blessing them there.  The first thing you must do is ask yourself, what is the world that they live in?  What is your wife’s world?  Your child, co-worker, boss or friend?  We all have a world that is important to us.  I have learned that my wife has priorities that make her happy.  One of the things that she loves very much is a clean house.  To me this is great!  But if it were up to me to do it, it probably wouldn’t be clean.  So I have learned to help her keep it clean because I want to make her happy.  I try to pick up after myself or ask her what I can do to help her.  This in a basic form is communication.  It is also very effective.


The scriptures reveal something very interesting about communication.  The word “said” appears 3605 times in the entire Bible.  Nothing is done until it is communicated to someone else.  This is true on the job, at the store, in the restaurant and in your home.  Just try going through one day without communicating with your words.  You may use hand signs or gestures but not one word can be spoken.  You will see after just one day the great power that words posses.  Why not use that power to your advantage and benefit? 


Communication Takes Time


If you were going to detail your car how much time would it take?  On the other hand if you were going to build a house from scratch how much time would be required?  The answer to these two questions would be quite different and very telling.  It depends on the importance of the outcome or the value of the desired product.  The car would take less time because we know it will just get dirty again and the process repeated.  The home would take much more time because of the importance and value of the finished product.


“…but the substance of a diligent man is precious.” Proverbs 12:27 (KJV)


The time we spend building our relationships through effective communication will be equal to our sense of value of that relationship.  If we don’t like the supervisor on the job, we will look for ways to avoid speaking to or communicating with him/her.  If we really love someone we will be drawn to them in affection and will want to spend time communicating effectively with them. 


How much time do you spend each day with your close relationships?  During that time how much of it is spent in effective communication?


Take the Time


“ He also that received seed among the thorns is he that heareth the word; and the care of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, choke the word, and he becometh unfruitful.” Matthew 13:22 (KJV)


Of all the parables spoken by Jesus Christ, this one speaks of our day today.  The blessings of fruitfulness were eliminated because of a busy schedule.  The fast pace busy lives of our society give us many blessings but unfortunately not much time for communication on a focused and intimate level.  We need quality time so our relationships can be strengthened against the time of trouble.


“Riches profit not in the day of wrath: but righteousness delivereth from death.” Proverbs 11:4 (KJV)


(Righteousness is simply doing what is right.)  Communication is like a bank account of emotional security.  When hard times come and press upon your relationship, if there have been some deposits made, you can make it through with flying colors.  On the other hand, if the account is empty there will be nothing to draw on.  Yes, we need to make money to live in this world, but even more than that we need communication to survive and flourish in our home.  What is needed more than anything is a balance.  Jesus gave us the answer to this dilemma.


“Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? [32] (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. [33] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:31-33 (KJV)


Do you see your relationships as valuable enough to stop some other activities for?


The Source of Strength to Change


All of us are weak and in bondage in some area of life.  Pride has a way of keeping us back from the things we want to do the most.  Love others.  How can we find the power to do this?


“But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you…” Acts 1:8 (KJV)


When we look at this it makes perfect sense.  The Holy Ghost is simply another term for God.  God is HOLY and God is a SPIRIT.  When we have God, we have the necessary ingredients for success in our relationships!  Remember the opening scripture?


“Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.”  1 John 4:7 (KJV)


Since God is love, when we have God we have what it takes to have great relationships!  The disciples learned this lesson after their failures in relating to Jesus Christ (the one they had followed for three and a half years).  Peter denied him three times because he didn’t have true love.  Yet, he became the spokesman for the early church and a mighty preacher.  He and the other disciples were transformed when they were filled with God.


“And they were all filled with the Holy Ghost, and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance.” Acts 2:4 (KJV)


Notice here that when they received the power that God gave them they spoke in different tongues that they neither knew nor had been taught.  They were literally transformed.  What kind of language do you use every day with your close relationships?  Someone said , “If you keep doing the same things you have always done you will get the same results that you have always gotten.”  The point is that there has to be a change before there can be a great transformation.  God has the right words to bring about a great marriage and home for you.  This Holy Ghost experience is available for us today!  God is still pouring it out as he did in Acts 2.  Many lives are being changed when the Spirit of God comes and fills them with his love.


“And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.” Romans 5:5 (KJV)


This divine selfless love is not just for other countries of the world.  It is for your home.  Can you imagine love and peace filling your home?  It can.  There is a source that is free and there is no limit to it in the baptism of the Holy Ghost.


“He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water. [39] (But this spake he of the Spirit, which they that believe on him should receive…)” John 7:38-39 (KJV)


Would you like to have a transformation in your life so that you could communicate effectively with your loved ones?




If you would like to know more about this experience of receiving the Holy Ghost let me know!  You won’t regret it.  If you would like to speak to someone in your area about your situation let us know and we will give you a way to contact them.  You may also ask any question you like about this or any subject and we will answer it via e-mail directly to you.  Thank you for stopping by and I pray that your communication with your loved ones and with God will become more fruitful and more quality.




Greg Wirths


Focus on Freedom


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  1. Carole M. Cofulan says:

    how do you communicate your feelings without hurting the people you love?

    • gregwirths says:

      One way is to try and use words that are not condemning and critisizing. Words like “You never listen to me” convey the wrong message and give them the feeling that they have always been substandard to you. That hurts. Another word that hurts is “I don’t care anymore”. See what I mean? I seems as though you may feel that you have to correct or instruct others to communicate love to them. Forgive me if I am wrong in that but unconditional love says things like “I love you just like you are” or “You’ve always been a good listener and I like that” Bring them into your realm where they can feel non threatened and you might be surprised that they will admit their faults to you without your talking about it at all. Hope it helps.
      Greg Wirths

  2. To learn God’s language is the first step. To know Jesus Christ and develope that special connection. closeness. Jesus came upon this earth to teach us,to give us a new way of communicating. It is the way we unload our sins to Him. He suffered and died for us to be able to have freedom in our heart, to live eternal with Him one day. God will not allow baggage to enter His Kingdome, It is pure. So He gave us this beautiful language to learn, from a beautiful book called the King James Bible. It only goes hand and hand.. beauty begets beauty through Jesus Christ . This is the language of Love
    Thank you for this wonderful site. God Bless you!

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